When you put these two words in the same sentence most of us will roll our eyes and say it’s hard work, that it takes patience, understanding and a sense of humor. The truth is traveling with your beloved can be all of this and it can also be amazing, unforgettable and completely romantic. You share so much together either bringing you closer or in some cases pulling you further apart. I mean think about it, when do you ever spend 24 hours of every day with your partner and then throw a motorbike into the mix . It’s a skill that doesn’t come easily and takes work to make it run smoothly. I have been traveling with my love for a year and a half two up on our BMW 1200 GSA motorbike. I’m not going to lie it has been hard work and a lot of the time we don’t see things eye to eye arguing over the littlest of things but we seem to be able to work through things easier and quicker than when we started our travels. I still get frustrated with some of his ways and I don’t think I’ll ever understand why he “needs” to chat with everyone and wave at every single person he sees as I’m sure he gets frustrated with “some” of my habits…. I guess!! ????
Ushuaia, Argentina.
I can remember when we first started this trip we would argue and fight over everything. A day wouldn’t go by that one of us was nagging the other and to be honest we came close to calling it quits within the first four months of the travel journey it was not what we had expected. I was adjusting to all these travel changes and he had all his barriers up protecting himself, it was horrible. But then things got better, we became closer and started supporting each other a lot more. Our barriers came down, we started to relax, laugh and enjoy each other’s company. Our surroundings, sleeping in the tent and the motorbike all became familiar, it was great!! Life was great!! ???? We had heard about other couples who had been on similar motorbike journeys who hadn’t lasted the distance going there separate ways when the trip had come to an end!
El Salvador
Then after about a year we took a turn for the worse or should I say I took for the worse… ???? The arguing started again and all our frustrating habits became a big deal for each other. I wanted to go home and he wanted me to stay. Life was far from great. This went on for a few months till we finally made it to Mexico I then became happier and much more easier to be around. In hindsight I think the challenges of this travel journey where getting on top of me and feeling like I wasn’t getting any support it provoked arguments and bitter feelings. Things I’m sure we have all gone through traveling with our partners over long periods of time. We started to mix up our accommodation camping sometimes and staying in hotel/hostels the other times. I believe this helped as I was finding it difficult to sleep in the tent with the warm nights and the comfort of a bed was doing great things in the romantic department!!! 😉
Colombia
Relationships are like a rollercoaster taking you up and taking you down. You need to understand each other, listen, laugh and we need to remember not to compare ourselves to other couples. I realized that when I stopped focusing on whether or not everything was perfect in our relationship and started to relax about things I began to enjoy my surroundings more and I even started having fun. ????
So in my experience traveling with your love doesn’t have to end in tears although we sometimes forget this focusing on the negative parts. You don’t have to be joined at the hip and it’s important to still have “your own time” . But mostly it can be a wonderful experience sharing all kinds of things together creating a special bond like no other. It’s something I’m really glad we have done together. Not only have I learnt new things about David we have become closer as a couple, sharing the good, the bad and the ugly! When you start to relax and enjoy yourself – good things happen.
